Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role - Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFT

Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role

By Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFT

  • Release Date: 2020-08-18
  • Genre: Parenting
Score: 4.5
From 32 Ratings


To recover from abuse, we need to first understand the type of abuse we are needing to recover from. Family scapegoating is an insidious form of abuse that is difficult to recognize. In Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, Psychotherapist and Family Systems expert Rebecca C. Mandeville explains the damaging effects of family scapegoating abuse (FSA) and how you can tell if you are the 'scapegoat' (aka 'identified patient') in your family. FSA is clearly described, along with guidance as to how to find appropriate resources, support, and treatment. Includes FSA self-assessment test.

In these pages you'll discover:
The FSA Self-Assessment TestHow to recognize and identify family scapegoating abuse (FSA) signs and symptomsWhy scapegoated individuals have difficulty recognizing they are being abusedHow complex trauma (C-PTSD), betrayal trauma, and toxic shame impede FSA recoveryHow intergenerational trauma and false narratives fuel family scapegoating dynamicsWhy the family 'Empath' can end up scapegoatedStrategies to reduce fawning behaviors and realign with your 'true self'Recommended resources and therapy modalities for FSA recovery

From the Author: "Scapegoating in any social system is a dehumanizing process of 'othering'. When you are the target of scapegoating in your family-of-origin, the consequences to your mental and emotional health can be severe, including the development of complex trauma (C-PTSD) symptoms. This introductory guide's purpose is to help the reader determine if they are in the 'family scapegoat' role; also, to better understand family scapegoating dynamics and the devastating consequences of being 'rejected, shamed, and blamed' by the people who were supposed to love and care for them the most."

Rebecca C. Mandeville is licensed Marriage, Family Therapist and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. She is a recognized thought leader in understanding the consequences of child psycho-emotional abuse and family scapegoating and has published extensively on this form of systemic 'invisible' abuse. Her pioneering work, 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', is the first book ever written on "Family Scapegoating Abuse" or "FSA" (a term she coined during the course of her Family Systems research). Rebecca is also a YouTube Health Partner serving as a recognized Family Systems and Complex Trauma expert via her channel Beyond Family Scapegoating Abuse.

©2020 Rebecca C. Mandeville All Rights Reserved


  • Put words to the experience

    It’s nice to be able to put words to what I’ve been experiencing as it’s so hard to explain to people. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge.
  • Took the words out of my mouth

    By kornflakez2
    This book was very eye opening and validating to read! Simple and quick. I recommend to anyone who is looking for further understanding into their CPTSD especially if your parent(s) are narcissists
  • This book is so important

    By luciarhymes
    Physical wounds are easy to see and defend. But we, most often unknowingly, get talked out of our psychological wounds most of the time, which just perpetuates the said wounds. This book is brilliant. It perfectly explains the experience of psychological tampering and abuse, and the knots that are created in our heads because of the trauma. If you want to detangle your mind, or have understanding and compassion about the scapegoat experience, this is all you need. I’m so grateful this book exists.